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Pregnant wife plans divorce, she got off Paxil cold turkey and is on Zoloft now, get back on paxil after baby? I've noticed that allthough Zoloft was better than nothing after she found out she was pregnant and went off Paxil way too quickly but they've got her on only 50mg and thats the lowest dosage. Am I playing with fire to get her off Zoloft (possible withdrawals) and switching her back to Paxil. I spoke to her about the new research saying very little amounts of Paxil are actually making it into the milk and that it's relatively safe and seems to be cheaper than Zoloft and she doesn' seem to have any problems switching back to it, in fact she kinda misses Paxil... I just know i have about a 2 month window before she plans to file for divorce after the babys born to try and get her as stable minded as possible. She's not the same person and her sister got a bad post pardum depression even while on Zoloft recently so maybe Paxil would work better for that as well..

Mssing an I replied: "Wow dude, your life is fucked."

Musicalmama replied: "First of all, I probably shouldn't even answer this since I don't really have an "answer" for you, but here goes..... Are you hoping that by switching meds she will decide not to file? Maybe you could talk her into marriage counseling? So sorry for your situation, and probably shouldn't suggest counseling since I don't know any of the details, but I'm just hoping your baby will be able to be raised by both a mother and a father in the house. It's just sad to hear that you are married, expecting a child, and planning for divorce all at the same time. It's supposed to be one of the happiest times of your lives, but apparently it's not. Sorry...."

sunshinyorange replied: "Unless you're a doctor, you shouldn't be deciding what medicine your wife is taking. That's between her, her doctor and her pharmacist. You should be more concerned with why she wants to divorce you, and what the two of you can do to remedy it (counseling, for example)."

Pregnant wife went off Paxil and wants a divorce, is it a good idea to get her from Zoloft to paxil after baby? I've noticed that allthough Zoloft was better than nothing after she found out she was pregnant and went off Paxil way too quickly but they've got her on only 50mg and thats the lowest dosage. Am I playing with fire to get her off Zoloft (possible withdrawals) and switching her back to Paxil. I spoke to her about the new research saying very little amounts of Paxil are actually making it into the milk and that it's relatively safe and seems to be cheaper than Zoloft and she doesn' seem to have any problems switching back to it, in fact she kinda misses Paxil... I just know i have about a 2 month window before she plans to file for divorce after the babys born to try and get her as stable minded as possible. She's not the same person and her sister got a bad post pardum depression even while on Zoloft so maybe Paxil would work better for that as well..

Donyae replied: "I was hoping someone with more knowledge would answer this but I see that no one has stepped up to the plate. I think that for the sake of the baby you should not be switching her medications around on her. Once the baby is born then you can see about switching her back to Paxil. I don't know why she wants to divorce you but you seem to think its unwarrented. While having a baby and immeditatly after is not the best time to be thinking of divorce for anyone and it sounds like she's going to need a lot of help once the baby is born (if she suffers from the same symptoms that her sister does). Perhaps you can talk her into waiting for about six months after the baby is born to file for divorce? Until then get couples therapy. Good luck. I wish I could say more to help you."

Pregnant and wants a divorce after going off Paxil, should I ask to have her switch from zoloft back to Paxil? My wife is 38 weeks along her pregnancy went off Paxil because of possible birth defects, she's on Zoloft now it helps but not as much as her Paxil does and she'd like to get back onto it, my research has shown that it is much safer during breastfeeding then pregnancy because very little actually gets out into the milk. Her sister was on Zoloft after her baby and it didn't seem to help much I'm kinda hoping she'll get back onto it because she got pregnant on our honeymoon and started bringing up divorce shortly after she got off Paxil and is still planning to divorce me a little while after the baby is born. But is it a bad idea to switch medication right after baby is born?

Ellie replied: "If she is not going to breast feed no its not a bad idea. People who go off of paxil act real strange and have some weird thoughts."

Can anyone share their experience of going off Zoloft? I got divorced and lost my health insurance. My Zoloft will now cost me $90 a month instead of $10! No way I can afford that and raise 2 kids. I already cut back from 100mg to 50mg two months ago, and my doctor asked me if I want to try going off it completely, now that my stress has GREATLY diminished (my ex-husband), but I was a little scared to do it yet. I am going to contact him, so don't everyone freak out and tell me I need to go to the doctor! I just want to hear some real life experiences. I never had any problems going off Paxil a few years ago, and I've heard Zoloft has more mild withdrawal symptoms. I was thinking I might cut back to 25mg daily and then maybe every other day the last week...if that's ok with my doc. What do y'all think?

Naz replied: "If you didn't experience it with paxil you probably wont have a problem then....... when I stopped taking paxil the withdrawal symptoms were very bad!!(I to had lost my insurance). you should come off it slowly though, just in case...."

Rachel replied: "OMG, it was the most awful thing I have ever been thru. For some reason Zoloft was bad. Effexor and paxil were nightmares but zoloft was bad for me the last time. I think it depends on if you are on any other medications at the time, and if you are switching from one to the other. If you didn't have any problems with Paxil, which was worse (physically) zoloft was worse (mentally, and little physical). You may be OK, but just in case, go down as gradual as you can, and if you have difficulties after you stop. I took 25 mg, every time symptoms came on, and it took within an hour and lasted 3 days until eventually I came off. I think sometimes people think that their depression is returning, and jump right back needlessly on the pills, but it is just withdrawal."

Lisa O replied: "Sounds like a good plan. You have to wean off slowly. I tried to stop all at once and became very dizzy, but when I did it slowly, I was fine."

moejaymom replied: "when I went off Zoloft I went to one tab every second day, to keep some levels in my system, then half a tab, then off completely. I did it over a one month period. I still had some mild withdrawal, headache and insomnia, but it only lasted about a week and I was fine. The only thing is that if you are taking Zoloft for chronic depression perhaps there is a generic form of anti-depressant that won't set you back so much financially? Good luck!"

51ain'tbad replied: "I had no problem what so ever going off Zoloft as far as symptoms but I did have to go on another med within 6 months. My dr gave me enough samples to keep me going because I was in the same boat as you are. I told him I couldn't afford them and I never had to buy them any more."

zackbarrett replied: "I have been on and off zoloft twice. Never had any problems taking myself off of it, just do the reduced dosage and gradually reduce the frequency, you should be ok."

mbunny replied: "If you really need meds some drug companies are giving their drugs free to those who really need them. If you can get off pills altogether, great! If not, watch the commercials they're on about every 3 minutes. Montel never shuts up."

Marc West replied: "How about start doing some sort of stress reducing technique. Then start supplementing that for the Zoloft so you can ease off of it. The Doc had me on Zoloft when I came back from Iraq and I hated it from the get go."

diggerbonz replied: "i am on paxil now and have been for four years befor paxil i was on zoloft i dropped it all at once i had no side effects BUT paxil is a different story for me i have tried to back down and even if i forget a day my body feels like i am going through electrical shock therapy I know every body is different but like i said zoloft was no problem for me I know I know talk to your Dr."

Jackie253 replied: "I was on Zoloft for 1 year. I then switched to Celexa because the ZOloft was no longer working. But getting off of it made me sick. I felt dizzy all the time. I am now drug free, but you just need to know that getting there isnt easy. I talk to a consuler still which helped. I would talk to your doctor about what side effects to expect."

katherine w replied: "My husband left and my youngest child(23 at the time) was diagnosed with a mental illness so I took Zoloft(50 mg. daily) for two years. I then weaned myself off of it much the way you're considering doing it and didn't experience much difficulty. You might want to cut back to 25 mg. a day for a full month and then every other day for two weeks and then every third day for the final two weeks. In other words take two months instead of one to get off it fully. I had a little sleeplessness and nervousness but nothing too traumatic. My friend however took paxil for 5 yrs and it took her at least a year to get off it with a lot of side effects. Since you didn't have any trouble with the paxil, in my opinion you should be fine. Of course, as you say, if it's ok with your doctor."

woggish_candy replied: "As long as you do it SLOWLY, you should be alright.Obviously, doctor's supervision is important. You suggested plan seems to be along the right lines.Good luck."

mp h replied: "I have been on Zoloft for 3 yrs I m afraid to go off of it i have flelt so much better on it , if it has been helping you try to keep taking it they just come out with a generic version of zoloft Im not sure how much it cost, It wouldnt hurt to look into it good luck"

Could taking Zoloft have made me gain weight?? I've never taken an antidepressant before, but I took zoloft for like two months to help get over depression / anxiety from my parents stupid divorce, and I gained weight!!!! Like a ton!!! I went from 127 to 145 in like 2 months! I'm 5'8 and officially fat now, and more depressed than ever and wondering if that drug could have done that. I feel weird, too. Like I have no energy and I'm just not interested in anything or anyone. I'm a cheerleader. I'm normally sooo energetic. Could this be the Zoloft? Can I just stop taking it right away or do I have to taper off? I DONT want to see my doctor. It just gets the rents involved and is not necessary. Please just tell me the deal about this med. THANKS

luvpink replied: "Yes, weight gain is a side effect of antidepressants. Do not go off 'cold turkey'. Taper off. Just call the doctor and ask the best way to do this."

Yoda replied: "Sometimes parents just don't get it... Yes, Zoloft will make you gain weight. The lack of desire is another side effect. Zoloft doesn't really cure depression, it numbs. I hope that makes sense. It doesn't make you happy, but rather, you don't care that you are unhappy. In my opinion, YOU don't need it. If you have situational depression/anxiety, get some counseling and try to acquire some other methods of dealing with it. You have a reason for the issues, so there is not a chemical imbalance that would require the mind-altering medication. Taper off...it is a drug that can make you crazy (using the term loosely) if you just stop. The weight will be easier to take off the quicker you do it. If your body gets used to carrying it, it will make it harder. I used to be a cheerleader and know what 18 lbs can do to your jumps (and everything else), so definitely take it off before season starts back up!"

Anyone have problems being sexual after childbirth? I had an episiotomy and then had to go on Zoloft after I had our baby because of severe post pardum depression. I have not been interested in sex with him since. I hate to say it, but I feel violated and grossed out everytime we are intimate. It has been over a year since we had the baby. We have had a lot more stress in our relationship and I have been considering divorce off and on for the last 6 months or so. I can't stand to be intimate with him. Anyone else?

Ella L replied: "well after giving childbirth, you coud feel a little weird during sexual activites since you just went through giving birth to a child. but most women recovers pretty fast and enjoy sexual activities a month or two after giving birth to a child."

Chloe T replied: "i didnt hav an episiotomy and i didnt get depressed, but i feel exactly the same i hate it when he touches me and sumtyms when he kisses me, i dont know why, it just happens :("

How do you deal with depression? I've had a REALLY bad year, and just recently have gone through an ugly divorce. And now I feel like I may lose my job. I was on Zoloft for a while, but quit taking them b/c they made me feel like a zombie. Is there any "at-home" remedy for depression? Thanks. geez, I didn't mean a remedy, just something you do to make you less depressed.

patallenvantare replied: "You could drink like hell but the answer isn't in that bottle girlfriend. I used to take Zoloft as well but switched to Effexor. 75 milligrams a day has done an awful lot for my moods. It also help with anxiety. Enjoy your day and take things as they come. Don't stew over bad events.If you lose your job then cross that bridge when you come to it."

vaughn favrua is back replied: "coping skills and excercise. i can help you with depression no doctor but have learned so much. sorry for this but mail back if there is anything i can do. i almost lost a good job while going through a bad breakup a few years back"

lightbox artwork replied: "In terms of the physical aspects of depression, try buying the supplement SAM-e It can be found in most drug stores, over the counter. Also: take a multi-vitamin that includes the B vitamins (needed by your body to make seratonin for the brain, to give you a feeling of well-being). Eat plenty of fruits and veggies, and a good diet, in general. Try HTP-5 (amino acid supplement from drug store) to bring a feeling of calm. Try to get some exercise, if possible....fresh air is good. For the mind: listen to positive audio/video files. Try to google Eckhart Tolle...he's a spiritual 'guru' that is very positive and uplifting."

FrogLady replied: "I'm sorry to hear you've had a rough year. One thing you might want to try is a support group for individuals going through the trials of divorce. This way you want feel so alone. Another is to try a psychologist who can help you work on your issues. One thing about this type of doctor is they can't prescribe medication. I'm not saying you need or don't need medication. I have depression and learned it's a disease. It's not something I could wish away. I've done individual therapy, support groups and for me medication has worked. It took several times trying different types before my body would adjust. It's not the medication that's the problem it's the side effects most people have. You might want to try exercises which release endorphins. Whatever you choose just keep working on yourself. In the long run it's you who help yourself. You're not alone in your struggle."

rencar32002 replied: "I deal with depression. Sometimes writing exactly how I feel in a journal helps me out a lot because I "get it out". If I feel like crying, I cry then get up wash my face and try to listen to music. I also pop in a funny dvd and laugh. I also see a therapist and do some of the techniques that she suggests which does help. Check with your doctor to see if he/she can change your medication. Prozac is pretty good and it helps with PMS. (PMS can pull you in deeper into the depression). Try to take a warm bubble bath, surround yourself with things that make you smile. This does help. Drinking chamomile tea helps calm you down too. Go for a brisk walk. Read. Look at magazines. In other words do things you like. Some days it's ok not to do anything. But please speak with your doctor about the medication. Also ask about Wellbutrin that may also help. If the medication isn't working for you let your doctor know. Because not all medications work well for everyone. I hope this helps you out some. Have a great day! Try not to drink alcoholic beverages this makes you more depressed."

Janet replied: "Music is the best remedy. Music helps to calm and relax yourself. choose a favourite music or songs of yours and sing along. hopefully this helps."

suzume replied: "I just found a new way to deal with depression that works really quickly and makes me feel so much better. First I changed my diet :- - Replaced cakes, sweets and crisps with fresh fruit (Blueberries, Oranges , etc.) - Replaced all caffeine drinks with fruit and herbal teas - Started to eat meat that I had cooked myself - Replaced fizzy and soft drinks with water. Then I started exercising for 30 minutes everyday. I try and go to sleep early and wake up early. I spend as much time as I can outside, even if it's walking to the nearest coffee shop to sit and read a book. I take every chance to spend time with people and always try and have a say in a conversation, even if it's stupid or brief. I've only been doing this for a few weeks but I feel so much better."

Pregnant wifes emotions have changed, plans to divorce soon after baby, advice? Wife and I used to make out for literally hours and cuddle (never had sex b4 we got married) for about 6 months before we got married and she seemed to have alot of reasons why she wanted to marry me, she used to tell me she loved me all the time. I got her pregnant on our honeymoon Feb. 6th 09, and she was so happy and we found out after about 5 weeks that she was allready pregnant. One day she came in to the room and it was like she tried to force herself to kiss me and I could tell she didn't enjoy it the same as before, she stopped letting me cuddle her, she stopped telling me she loved me, she also went off of her Paxil (anxiety) for the baby. I was on Paxil as well. Pretty soon I was fighting for our marriage and she was thinking about divorce, I got us into marriage counseling and got her onto Zoloft, it helped but not enough. Her only reason for divroce is that she doesn't love me and that I irritate her and I smell etc. I have been fighting this for months and she has allready asked me to leave and I did just that and have supported her in making sure she has enough food and gas etc. It seems to me that the only reason gives me for wanting divorce is just her not having proper feelings, other than that we have alot in common and we don't argue much at all, I've never yelled at her. She really is set on divorce though...

Cracker Jack replied: "Just the hormones. She ain't gonna get a divorce."

I want to be Top Contributor replied: "I would love to see her reasoning that "you smell" written in the divorce papers. Sorry, but that's just too funny. It's hormones, bud. I promise you. Do your best to be there for her in whatever ways she thinks she needs at the moment."

daledeloy replied: "All she wanted from you was the baby. End of story. She didn't want you she wanted a baby and now you're stuck with child support. Woman can give out the biggest ruse in the planet."

Andy M. replied: "she's pregnant, emotions get messed with when you're pregnant... hope everything works out for both of you."

prescientone replied: "Everything is happening in your relationship too fast. You have not had time to find the real you. Deal with all of this, support her in the pregnancy, keep your feelings for her...tell her you love her. She has major hormonal changes, marriage and a baby on the way. That is a lot to deal with. All of this may make you stronger....hang in there."

Myth_Understood replied: "FIRST THING tomorrow, find out if it's safe for her to continue with Paxil while she is pregnant. My best guess is that this mood change is partially hormone related, and partially because she's off of her meds. From what you've said, everything was fine until she stopped taking the Paxil. If you (or her doctor) could get her to understand this, maybe she could be smart and wait until after the baby to do anything. PLEASE get her to understand this !"

insomniac replied: "This sounds like a combination of hormones and the effects of being off of her Paxil. When someone has been on medication and then has to stop taking it, their mood and personality can drastically change. One of my friends went from being vibrant and bubbly to being severely depressed when she stopped taking Paxil. It wasn't pretty. She went off of it because she wanted to try living med free but it just doesn't work for her. It sounds like your wife is having a really hard time with this. Is she seeing a therapist? If not, try to get her into both couples and individual counseling. She may not be able to see the change in herself and may not realize that's it probably due to the circumstances, but a therapist may help her realize this before she does something she'll regret. She may be taking Zoloft now but it may not work as well for her as Paxil and there is usually still an adjustment period. I hope things get better for you. Therapy is really the only thing I can think of to suggest."

Brit replied: "i am 28 weeks pregnant and have anxiety as well. i use buspar for my anxiety since its safe for the baby and it helps calm me when i go on emotional rages. i know you dont understand and its hard for a man to get it, but when youre pregnant, everything changes. our bodies, our minds, our thoughts, our emotions, our every move is different. im not saying that its an excuse to treat our loving spouse like hes dirt, but it affects women in different ways. she may be feeling unattractive herself and not want you around watching her binge on ice cream and cookies or cry at commercials. she may have post partum depression after the baby is born and that will be even worse for you. i know its hard, my bf often gets mad at me when i go on tangents, but try to still be there for her as she is carrying your child and going through a ton of emotional changes. its almost over and you will have a beautiful baby. i believe that babies really do change everything too. she may fall so madly in love with your baby that it makes it easier for her to love you because you gave her such an amazing gift. if she doesnt straighten up though, respect her wishes and grant her a divorce. its not ideal but you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make him drink. hope i helped!"

swflsteelerfan replied: "Not one person has yet thought about you actually being the father. What if she had sex before you got married and was already pregnant from another man. Now the other man may want her and the baby that may be his. When baby is born, suggest getting DNA done Yet again, could be her hormones kicking into high gear, This is way my wife is now. I'm 59 and she is 47, in 7 months of pregnancy. Her hormones are flying off the charts and no matter what I do, she will always find something to complain about. She not sleep with me, cuddle, kiss. Yet I know the baby is mine. You see, she had tubes tied 22 years ago and I was fixed 25 years ago. We both have come back to God and believe this baby is a gift from God."

moonmother2000 replied: "You might ask her if she will wait for 3 months after the baby comes and her hormones stabilize some to make a final decision. If you went to counseling, I would think this was already suggested. I hope it is just the hormones. Please try to continue to be supportive and let her know you know hormones create havoc in pregnancy. If she does continue with her decision to divorce, you will have no regrets. She may have postpartum depression, but, if Paxil worked before pregnancy, hopefully, once the baby is delivered she can get back on that. Probably about everything irritates her now - try to keep things in context and not take it too personally (I know that is difficult) Of course you need to continue to care for her and make sure she has food, gas and money. Good luck"

Free-Lance replied: "I feel for you perhaps it time to close that door in your life."

ouragon replied: "I've answered your question before but neglected to mention that many mental illnesses can involve a high level of irritability. That's what makes her feel/ say that you smell, etc. Paxil is safe during pregnancy, especially at this late date. The baby is formed. I wouldn't have left. In fact, I didn't when my husband was adjusting to meds for bi-polar disorder, and he was a nightmare. Good luck."

Pregnant new wife doesn't love me, wants divorce after baby, advice? Wife and I used to make out for literally hours and cuddle (never had sex b4 we got married) for about 6 months before we got married and she seemed to have alot of reasons why she wanted to marry me, she used to tell me she loved me all the time. I got her pregnant on our honeymoon Feb. 6th 09, and she was so happy and we found out after about 5 weeks that she was allready pregnant. One day she came in to the room and it was like she tried to force herself to kiss me and I could tell she didn't enjoy it the same as before, she stopped letting me cuddle her, she stopped telling me she loved me, she also went off of her Paxil (anxiety) for the baby. I was on Paxil as well. Pretty soon I was fighting for our marriage and she was thinking about divorce, I got us into marriage counseling and got her onto Zoloft, it helped but not enough. Her only reason for divroce is that she doesn't love me and that I irritate her and I smell etc. I have been fighting this for months and she has allready asked me to leave and I did just that and have supported her in making sure she has enough food and gas etc. It seems to me that the only reason gives me for wanting divorce is just her not having proper feelings, other than that we have alot in common and we don't argue much at all, I've never yelled at her. She really is set on divorce though...

Jordann. replied: "aww im so sorry. i just want to hug you hahah."

Pip replied: "My goodness, man..... You have asked this question EIGHTEEN times over the last few days"

Dude replied: "It's over; she just wanted a baby and sucked you in."

Minime replied: "I feel sorry for you. I guess you're still young. Just get married to another woman and move on. You are a man!"

PecanSandie replied: "probably just hormones from the pregnancy...the lack of anxiety meds probably isnt helping either. wait till after she delivers, gets back on her meds and has time to readjust before you guys start to jump ship."

Jakob replied: "fight for your kid man, and dont let her take whats yours. show your dominance"

Super Girl replied: "take care of yourself not her while she is having the baby and see how she feels about that. she probably will carry on complaining but don't bother. Unless, she shows she needs support. 'you smell' whatever, why did she marry you and have a baby with you then. Ask her to see a doctor."

JennyJ in the Sky with Diamonds replied: "you smell? then wash! it must be horrible living with someone who smells. no sex before marriage is a terrible idea, you don't get to know the person well enough, your body and pleasure and physical intimacy is so important in a relationship, and you can't tell if you love someone until you know lots about them, warts and all, so sex is a big thing. sounds like she doesn't really value marriage at all. you should let her go, but still be part of the baby's life."

pineoak1000 replied: "Sounds like what Brooke Shields had postpartum depression. I be now concerned for the child in her care"

Pregnant wife thinks she will never love me again, plans divorce, advice? Wife and I used to make out for literally hours and cuddle (never had sex b4 we got married) for about 6 months before we got married and she seemed to have alot of reasons why she wanted to marry me, she used to tell me she loved me all the time. I got her pregnant on our honeymoon Feb. 6th 09, and she was so happy and we found out after about 5 weeks that she was allready pregnant. One day she came in to the room and it was like she tried to force herself to kiss me and I could tell she didn't enjoy it the same as before, she stopped letting me cuddle her, she stopped telling me she loved me, she also went off of her Paxil (anxiety) for the baby. I was on Paxil as well. Pretty soon I was fighting for our marriage and she was thinking about divorce, I got us into marriage counseling and got her onto Zoloft, it helped but not enough. Her only reason for divroce is that she doesn't love me and that I irritate her and I smell etc. I have been fighting this for months and she has allready asked me to leave and I did just that and have supported her in making sure she has enough food and gas etc. It seems to me that the only reason gives me for wanting divorce is just her not having proper feelings, other than that we have alot in common and we don't argue much at all, I've never yelled at her. She really is set on divorce though...

iar replied: "i am curious for the answer, i am going through a similar situation, was married and loved for 3 years and when the baby got here on the 3rd year, she hates me and wants me to die. still 8 months later. every wrong thing i did became one too many, like perfect timing for disaster. i love my family but its hurts to have it torn apart."